Good Friday morning from Espresso house at Akerbrygge.
What a lovely Morning!
It went like a dream waking up this morning….( or NOT!), But hey when I checked, it is Friday!, which means it`s time for some serious luxury Christmas shopping, relaxation time and doing fun stuff with Family.
The plan for my weekend is Champagne, good food, my boy and his friends going to the stream show, and a surprise day I have planned for me, KC and GE on Sunday.
Actually, this is just part of his Advent calendar this year. It`s soo nice when you plan surprise days, because you get to create the day just as you want it to be. One of his Gucci belts needs a new hole since he lost some weight. Well, let’s just say I am more excited than him going to “fix” the belt on Sunday. I really want a Gucci IPhone case! But I want a special occasion reason to buy it, I still can`t find the right excuse to tell myself;)
The topic today:
Start Living the life that you want:
It took me years to get past all of my own misconceptions about what I should do and start doing the stuff I wanted to do.
I like this quote a lot: Stop Existing and Start Living. If you really look at it we have only got ONE LIVE, why wouldn`t you want to make it the best of what it can be? Okay, so your daily life is boring, you haven’t had a good date in what seems like decades and every day is the same old, with nothing happening to make you feel revved up and excited. Its work, home, cooking dinner, cleaning up, then bed time, and every day you wake up its like pressing the same button – REPEAT, and the same routine happens day after day. Clearly, that’s not a way to live!
The first change in your life that will make you start living the life that you want is that you need to:
- Discover your purpose: (What is my purpose in life?)
Now one of my absolutely best inspirational speaker is Dr. Wayne Dyer (1940-2015), when this guy talk I want to listen to him all day! The way he turns your thoughts into seeing life in a whole new way is amazing! This guy makes you find meaning in your life. He makes you love yourself in that special way. The only way his teachings will really affect your life is if you listen to them regularly, because when you move from it, you get to forget the impact that the words really have. One of the books I recommend which you should definitely ask your friend or spouse to get you for x-mas is: change your thoughts change your life by Dr. Wayne Dyer. Please do read this and let me know what you think! There is also a movie made that is indeed a must watch.
Theres is also a Movie made that is indeed a must watch.
2. Erase negativity!
Trust me when I tell you that erasing negativity can really lift you places! But you need to have a focused mind. Someone hurt me back at High School. Yes, my very best friend! I knew her very well, I knew her character very well, she didn`t really know it but it wasn`t the act of what she did, but it was the disappointment in her weakness that caused a friendship betrayal and that made me hated her. I hated her so strongly that I could feel my heart ached. I was consumed by this negative feelings of betrayal.
This is the person who is supposed to know me so well that she can tell how I think, and what I am able to do and not. Anyway, I know in my heart that she knew she was wrong, but because she knew I would never forgive her, she never took contact with me to say she was sorry. My sister sent me a very inspirational article, I read that article and I understood that that was meant for me. To erase that negativity that I have carried all this years. So, I sent my friend a Message via Facebook back in 2008 I think. I told her ” I forgive you” I forgive you because I know you were weak, you followed the crowd, while all along you questioned the truth of the whole act. I forgive you because I know you know me, and you know the truth, and you know I would never hurt you in that way and neither you would hurt me in that way, but you were weak, I understand”.
She said she had never cried so hard when she saw my Message. It was such a joyous feeling for both of us… That day we both erased this big negativity that we have carried with us for years. Now, even though we will never be friends the way she used to be, we are at least happy that love prevailed in the end and we still can laugh and communicate from time to time and that we still love each other.
3. Concentrate on what you have.
If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough and will never ever be happy! If you didn`t know this, know that there is something within our mind called Reticular Activation System (or RAS). What you focus your thoughts on, this system will start to try to find evidence of in your surroundings. That is way there is a saying that goes surround yourself with positive people, not the kind who are negative and jealous of everything you do.
When we focus on what you have and appreciate it or focus on what you want, a lot of things will start to “pop up” in your reality. Some was actually there all along.
But you can only see it when you shift your focus, change your thoughts and change your life. If you focus on what you don’t have your RAS will only help you to find evidence of that. The mind also make us believe being single is a bad thing. It turns to show us all the things we miss in life from not having a relationship. Enjoy your single life when you can, it is the only time you get to buy a Hermès birkin bag without a bad conscience, so please rock your single life with a big smile ladies.:-))
4. Live in the present moment.
Let go of the past, who you were, focus on who you want to become! If you want to be a stylish fashion icon, get rid of all the old trash in your closet. Take your fashion icon and copy her style, her clothes, her look, her ways. If you want to be Oprah forget that you don`t have the skills. Look at yourself at the present moment, not the you of the old. Think you were just reborn and start living the life you want. Everyone who knows me knows my passion for life. I am NOT scared. I live in the moment! I love elegant and nice things, and nice places, and I love happy People! I am also very career orientated. ( I prefer to date nerds, because I cannot stand it if I ask my partner if in his opinion, he believes E = mc2 can still prove the force of gravity, and I don`t get a well qualified opinion.) I guess that`s why I like parties a lot too because there everyone is smiling and seem happy:-)
KC and I was at the Spa called the Well sometime back, and we ran into the owner and he was limping, which was obvious he had a leg problem and he was together with a friend, so I went up to him in KC`s dismay and asked “what happened to your leg? He started explaining how he hurt himself but he said he has had it treated at the hospital and I was like which one, then he spoke about a place in New York and then I go.. hmm..New York.. fancy hah? And wished him a lovely recovery. I went back to my Norwegian man (who now looked as red as a shrimp), with a big smile, and I got the look “ Gwen, remember I am Norwegian and we eerrrh don`t talk to people hahaha.
Live in the present moment and do whatever MAKES you happy. When you die, you will ask yourself who the fuck have I been trying to please all along?
5. Lastly, stop! trying to be happy!
Stop the pursuit for happiness because you will never find it! It`s like watching the endless episode of Tom and Jerry where that little mouse never gets caught. Yes, that is happiness. You will, almost never catch it. Two days ago, I was sharing some evening “juleglogg” with KC and I asked him, KC are you happy? And he asked me to come over and snuggle into his arms, then he answered, now am HappyJ Sweet, but I continued…. I mean, KC are you really happy? Hehe, which explains my whole point. He just told me what made him happy, yet I still went on, on the pursue of happiness. Happiness is what we tell our minds. Define your own happiness, then tell your mind what that is, then you will just realize you have actually been happy all along!.
Have a lovely Friday guys!